How Powerful Self Confidence Boosters Can Help You Succeed With Relationships,
Deal With People, Overcome Stress and Improve Your Performance

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- By Mark Lauderdale MD FRCPC

What if you could boost your confidence whenever you needed it?

Imagine what it would be like to be able to replace your feelings of anxiety, fear, frustration or stress with a state of strength and confidence whenever you had to deal with some kind of stressful situation.

Not only that, but what if you could use that boost of confidence to solve problems effectively and deal with relationships more easily and successfully?

I’m Dr. Mark Lauderdale, a psychiatrist and personal effectiveness coach. Over the past 10 years of helping people in my practice I found that very often their anxiety and stress was the result of a challenging situation in their life – a relationship problem, a performance situation, a difficult person, etc.

I also found that providing people with a boost of self-confidence worked wonders in their ability to deal with these stressful situations effectively.

So, I developed a unique step-by-step approach that has already helped hundreds of people build their self-confidence and solve the problems they were facing. I’ll tell you more about my “self-guided” method later, but first let me give you…

5 Effective Self Confidence Boosters That Will Help You Be More Successful Anytime Anywhere

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1. Recognize That You Do Have a Choice Between Stressing Out or Being Strong and Confident
One thing that people often do not realize is that their emotions can and do change. Just because a situation may be automatically triggering anxiety, it doesn’t always have to be that way. There are things we can do to cause ourselves to feel differently.

So, one powerful confidence booster technique is to simply decide how you want to feel. Ask yourself, “Would I rather feel nervous, anxious or stressed in this situation? …or, calm, strong and confident?”

When you pause to think about which emotional state is going to help you be more successful in your challenging situation, it is usually obvious that feeling strong and confident will always produce a better result. So, decide whether you want to focus on feeling anxious and stressed or feeling strong and confident.

2. Clear Out One Corner of Your Junky Closet at a Time
Rather than letting yourself become overwhelmed by a challenge that is facing you, break it down into bite-size chunks.

Any situation that is triggering anxiety or stress (or any negative emotion for that matter) will feel easier if you can identify several smaller more manageable pieces to the problem.

For example, let’s say you’ve got a presentation to do. Preparing the information is one part – perhaps there are several parts if it’s a big presentation. Another part is rehearsing it – doing some dry runs just to get comfortable hearing yourself talk and giving yourself a chance to stumble over your words enough times until you get it right. Maybe you record yourself speaking. Another part may be making sure you’ve got all the tools and materials you’ll need ahead of time.

This technique is used by mountain climbers to prevent themselves from feeling overwhelmed by the daunting task ahead – focusing on only the next 100 feet, then the next, and then the next until the peak has been conquered.

3. Identify the Positive Outcome You Want
Take a little time to really get clear about the positive outcome you want to create. Rather than just hoping that things turn out well or just “trying” to be more confident, become proactive and identify exactly what a positive outcome would look like. What would be happening? What would others be doing or saying? What would you be doing and how would you be feeling while you were doing it?

This is essentially the same as setting a goal, but don’t make the mistake of setting a goal that is the absence of a negative outcome. Goals like “not feeling anxious on my date” or “doing my performance without making a mistake” are negative. They conjure up negative images that you don’t want.

Phrase your goal positively… For example, “feeling good and having fun on my date” or “performing well and enjoying it”.

Then, visualize your positive outcome in detail. Positive images are great confidence boosters.

4. Connect to a Positive Experience From the Past – a Time When You Felt Confident and Happy and Blend it Into the Current Situation
If you think of some experience you’ve had in which you felt happy and confident you can use it to help boost your confidence in your current situation.

One woman I worked with blended the confident feelings from her West Coast hiking experience into her present divorce situation to generate a much stronger feeling of strength and confidence in overcoming her current set of obstacles and challenges.

I suggest that you close your eyes and visualize your positive experience and then blend the good feelings into your current problem situation.

I often have people tap their legs back and forth as they do this because it seems to help with the blending process. As you do this you will likely see a new and different way of handling your situation.

5. Mentally Practice
Whenever you learned to do anything in the past, you probably made several mistakes as you practiced before you eventually got it right. It’s no different with learning to be confident in a new situation. But you can shorten the learning process considerably by practicing it several times in your mind.

If you are realistic about it, you can picture making all your mistakes in your mind first (where it’s perfectly safe to make mistakes). Then, as you continue you will gradually figure out the right way to deal with your particular situation.

Visualizing a positive outcome is great, but it’s even better to mentally rehearse dealing with your challenging situation from start to finish several times.

What Benefits Will You Receive From Boosting Your Confidence Regularly?

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There are so many advantages to building your confidence that it’s almost impossible to name them all. So, let me summarize the benefits in a few major areas…

Deal With People Calmly and Confidently

Dealing with people at work or in the community can be a challenge for anyone. With an effective confidence booster you could…

• Handle customers helpfully and objectively
• Deal with annoying coworkers effectively
• Handle difficult employees professionally yet firmly
• Stand up to rude or critical behavior from bosses
• Eliminate your anxiety around people – be able to speak to whomever you want comfortably and cheerfully
• Deal with difficult people effectively – stay calm, cool and collected when dealing with manipulative, controlling, self-centered, negative or immature people wherever they may be

In fact, ANY social situation that makes you feel anxious, angry or stressed will go better when you are feeling strong and confident.

Improve Your Performance

Do you ever get nervous in performance situations? Anxiety and stress can seriously interfere with your ability in many situations. Feeling strong and confident can produce great results in various performance situations…

• Impress everyone with your singing, public speaking or on stage performance
• Give a winning athletic performance
• Pass your tests and exams with flying colors
• Present yourself well in job interviews and performance evaluations
• Do an impressive presentation
• Beat your competition

Be More Successful in Your Personal Relationships

Being confidence in a relationship in invaluable. So often I have seen people destroy or worsen a relationship through excessive doubts, fears, overreactions and negative things said out of anger, worry or stress. Remaining calm and confident can help you…

• Go on a successful date
• Resolve an argument or problem quickly and effectively
• Deal with relatives and in-laws constructively
• Deal with a break-up or divorce with personal strength and power
• Feel good about being on your own instead of sad about being alone
• Confidently create a happy, fun and stable relationship

Feeling confident and not being emotionally triggered is one of the important keys to a happy and successful relationship.

Cope With Stressful Situations More Effectively

We are faced with all kinds of stresses and challenges in our lives these days.
Strength and confidence can help you overcome big stressors such as these…

• Cope well with painful or uncomfortable medical treatments
• Manage going to court with fortitude
• Successfully find a job or overcome financial difficulty
• See a large project through to completion (such as a book, thesis or job)

A boost in confidence can also help you overcome smaller stressors as well…

• Overcome a specific fear (e.g., driving, flying, spiders, heights, etc)
• Ask someone out on a date
• Cope with Christmas or other holidays
• Manage your children calmly but effectively

In fact, I’ll bet that with any challenge in your life, large or small, you would probably rather feel calm, strong and confident. Right?

First, think of a situation in your life where you don’t feel confident. In other words, think of a situation that triggers feelings of anxiety, stress, anger, frustration, nervousness or worry.

Now let me ask you this… “When you are in this situation again in the future, in which mental state would you be more successful creating a positive outcome? …nervous, anxious or stressed? …or, calm, strong and confident?”

The answer is obvious isn’t it?… when I put it that way.

Well, I have created a system that will do this for you. It’s called Confidence Plus!

What is Confidence Plus?

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Confidence Plus is a powerful set of confidence boosters built into a step-by-step self-guided method on this website. Each step is a specific psychological technique designed to empower you and to shift your thinking and attitude towards confidence and success.

Confidence Plus is a system that I have been using for several years with people in my office with outstanding results. Almost 90% of people report feeling calmer and more confident when dealing with a challenging situation – and since these were people receiving therapy in my psychiatric practice these were certainly not trivial challenges!

When you signup for a Confidence Plus membership you’ll receive access to a series of pages, each with it’s own audio recording of me guiding you through the next step.

The confidence boosters described above are incorporated into the process plus several more – all tied together into one immensely empowering program.

Here’s the best part… and I think you’re going to like it.

It’s only $4.99 for 1 year!

That’s right. I know that I’ve sold these recordings for as much as $81.00 in the past, but I decided that I want everyone to try them and benefit from them.

Your Money Back Guarantee: Furthermore, if you don’t receive any benefit I’ll gladly give you your money back! I want you to be happy with this system, even if I’m giving it to you for only $4.99.

What have you got to lose?!! …Nothing.

What have you got to gain? …Everything that greater confidence, success and happiness can bring into your life.

Special Note: This program is brand new and I can’t guarantee how long the Special Introductory Price of $4.99 will last.

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Live Powerfully!

Dr Mark Lauderdale

Summary
Confidence Plus is a set of powerful confidence boosters in an interactive audio-visual system that helps you replace anxiety and stress with strength and confidence for greater success in all areas of your personal and professional life.

Quick and Easy – Boost your confidence for any situation.

Depth and Power – Build your self-confidence for life.