Unlock
Your Personal Power When Dealing with Difficult People...
How
to DRAMATICALLY Increase
Your Personal Effectiveness
When Dealing With Difficult People
and
Develop Your Ability
to Turn Stressful
Situations Into
Successful Results!
If You're Ready to Finally Say
Goodbye to the Ineffective
Habits, Fears and Frustrations that are Holding You Back from
TRUE Success with People and Challenging Situations,
This Will Be the Most Important
Letter You Ever Read…
From: Mark
Lauderdale MD
Have
you ever had the BEST of intentions when addressing an
issue with
someone and yet, somehow things just went sideways into a frustrating
lack of communication and a poor outcome?
If
you think about your experiences with people at work or home...
...have
you ever found yourself feeling more and more annoyed
and irritated by someone who was being critical
or negative to the point
that you started to AVOID them... even if avoiding the situation meant
that the results were poor, or an issue didn't get resolved, or a
relationship suffered?
...have
you ever felt controlled by someone and
that
THEIR wants and needs always seemed to be more important than your own,
but you felt helpless to find the right words to
say... and maybe you
were afraid to say anything at all for fear that they might get upset?
...have
you ever felt hurt by someone who didn't
accept you or
didn't include you in activities or jobs when you SHOULD have been
playing a
role... and you're worried that they're trying to push you out?
...have
you ever felt scared or intimidated by someone's demanding
or bullying attitude
towards you... and the thought of
standing up to them made your emotions go CRAZY and your stomach turn
somersaults?
...have
you ever LOST IT with someone... maybe they did
something that ticked you off, or maybe
it was an argument that got you
upset... and you let your emotions take over, with the result that you
said things you regretted later?
...have
you ever needed to address the mistakes someone was
making, but your anxiety caused you to procrastinate
and avoid until
you finally DID say something... and it WASN'T pretty? (the worst part
about this one is that you probably beat yourself up
for it later on,
and felt even WORSE for the next few days because things turned out so
bad.)
...have
you ever asked someone for advice on how to deal with a
difficult person, but then found that the advice somehow
didn't seem to
FEEL right... or perhaps you DID try their advice but
somehow things just didn't go right?
Have
you ever had one of these things happen to you?
I
know I have.
The Big
"Catch 22" Mistake We All Make
In
the past, when I was confronted by someone who was being difficult or
challenging, I did what most people do.
I
saw the other person as being the cause
of my frustration, anxiety or stress and I either avoided them or tried
to get them to stop doing what they were doing so that I
could feel
better.
You know
what I'm talking about because you've probably done it yourself... I'd
say things like:
"When
you ___________, it makes me feel ________",
or,
"I don't like it when you _________________",
or the big
kicker, "If you cared about me, you'd _________________."
I
even memorized relationship rules and techniques from the courses I
took,
but I found that when the other person "pushed my buttons"
I'd end up
doing or saying the wrong thing AUTOMATICALLY despite my best
intentions!
Eventually, I
began to see that this approach wasn't working
very well. I realized
that whenever I expressed unhappiness or dissatisfaction it would come
across as negativity, criticism or disapproval.
Now,
who really WANTS to respond in a positive way to criticism or
disapproval? Well, actually... NO ONE!
But
it's so hard... because you literally CANNOT see the right way to
approach things when you're emotions are blinding you.
All
you can think about is getting the other person to
change their behavior and stop being so difficult!
So,
if you try to get the other person to change their behavior when
you're
feel stressed or upset, you just end up aggravating them and
making
things WORSE for yourself... a nice little double bind.
So,
what's the answer?
Well,
the solution that I came up with is very interesting, not the way you
would usually think about dealing with a difficult people problem. And
it's something that I think might help YOU deal with YOUR difficult
people or challenging situations....
The
Insight That Changed
Everything For Me
Several
years ago, I was particularly distressed about a relationship issue,
which resulted in me being in a very difficult situation.
It
was really getting me down, so I started using a particular therapy
method on myself that I had learned.
Instead
of trying to come up with a technique to get the other person to stop
their behavior (in order to make me feel better), I decided to go the
OTHER way... I imagined the WORST case scenario and played it out into
the future!
At
the beginning things felt worse, but THEN... there was a
sudden change... a feeling of calm came over me...
followed by a feeling of strength welling up from within me... and then
I KNEW that I wasn't afraid of the worst case scenario any
longer.
I
later called this experience "the wellspring phenomenon".
Not
being afraid of the worst case scenario allowed me to deal with the
situation FAR more effectively after that.
You
see, the ONLY power that a difficult person has over you,
is to trigger
your fears and scare you off... or to trigger your anger and throw you
off
your game. (By the way, I don't think they do it on purpose, either. I
think it's just something they learned to do unconsciously because it
works.)
Once
I realized that the place to start when facing ANY obstacle or
challenge (such as a difficult person or a stressful situation), was
WITHIN myself, then everything changed.
Instead
of focusing on the other person's difficult behavior, I started
focusing on
my reactions to
their behavior FIRST.
Once that was dealt with, the rest was MUCH easier.
This
simple shift in thinking changed my focus, took me in a new direction
and ultimately led to my success in dealing with people of all kinds...
difficult or otherwise.
A
Breakthrough In Personal
Effectiveness With People
Once
I recognized the importance of the wellspring phenomenon, I wanted to
see if I could help my patients experience it for themselves... Maybe
it would help them deal with difficult people and stressful
situations more effectively too.
So,
I decided to see what would happen if I blended together as many
personal empowerment and success methods as possible into
a structured step-by-step process for dealing with difficult people and
stressful situations.
The
methods that I used included goal setting, hypnosis techniques,
mental rehearsal, motivational techniques, cognitive behavior therapy
(CBT), neurolinguistic programming (NLP), eye movement desensitization
and reprocessing (EMDR), stress management, affirmations and several
other personal success strategies.
I called
it "The Wellspring Method".
Not only
did I find that this blend of strategies helped ME deal with my life
challenges easier, but when I used it in my office, my clients LOVED
the rapid results!
I now use
the Wellspring Method in my office every day to help people deal with
ALL KINDS of difficult people and situations and to create positive
changes in their interpersonal issues much more rapidly
than with regular approaches.
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Watch this
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Next, I
recorded the Wellspring Method onto a set of audio CDs and included
several more stress-eliminating and confidence-building techniques
simply because we are far more capable of solving problems and taking
effective action when we feel strong and confident
instead of stressed, anxious or upset.
I
refined this system through 58 revisions to include only the most
essential and powerful strategies and the most clear and easy-to-follow
instructions.
Then...
I tested the audio recordings of this guided step-by-step process in a
field study with the general public (with people like
you) who were facing difficult real life situations...
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88% expressed a high degree of
satisfaction with the program, |
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87%
expressed a significant or complete resolution of their
difficult situation within a few weeks, |
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88%
experienced significantly greater confidence
in dealing with their challenging situation or person, and |
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100%
experienced a reduction in stress emotions
(anxiety, overwhelm, frustration, stress, etc.). |
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These
results were impressive. Most people were able to deal
with a difficult person or clear up a difficult situation in their
lives 4 times faster!
Imagine the Feeling of Satisfaction
When When You Handle a Frustrating
Situation
Successfully!
Personally, I
feel a real sense of reward when I see people using my
system with such rapid and beneficial results.
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was able to deal with his coworkers and feel happier in his job..." |
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Before...
“This method
helped me to put the demands of work into perspective. People have
known that I’ve been stressed about the pressures and
expectations of my job for awhile now, but the program helped
me learn to take things much less personally.”
After using the Wellspring system...
“I was really impressed that my issue could be resolved so
quickly! It’s like issues that are stressing you just become
non-issues, so you can get on with enjoying life.”
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Ron Betuba
Customer Care Representative
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gained the cooperation of her employee without a big
confrontation..." |
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Before...
Jill was the manager of a hair salon and spa who was worrying for weeks
about how to confront an employee regarding some inappropriate
behavior at work. She didn't quite know how to bring up
the issue and was concerned that the person might get upset or even
quit!
After using the Wellspring system...
Jill remarked, “Using this method really helped me work
through the problem without any stress. I
feel strong and confident!” ...And she went on to easily
obtain her employee's agreement to make the changes she wanted over
a casual conversation at lunch! A big confrontation
never even took place.”
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Jill Neil
Victoria,
BC
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"He
was able to create a powerful positive change within his family."
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Before... “Every
time that I was about to talk to my son I could feel darkening storm
clouds well up within me, dreading what was about to unfold. I knew
exactly how I was going to act and exactly how defensive he was going
to get. We both seemed to be stuck in this well worn rut.”
After using the Wellspring system...
“To my surprise, I found that using the wellspring phrase
technique took us in a new direction. Before approaching my son I would
refresh my feelings and it felt like someone had flipped a switch. My
attitude was now focused on problem solving, I didn’t own his
behaviour, I didn’t have an attitude, and I can say that
we’ve started a new chapter in our
relationship.”
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Trevor Barnes
Senior Engineering Advisor
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The
really GREAT thing is that each of these people only took ABOUT
ONE HOUR to to create
these dramatic changes!
Here Are MORE Examples of Personal
Effectiveness and Positive Change...
It’s even more rewarding to hear
about how great people
FEEL when
they RESOLVE their interpersonal problems, such as this
teacher who was struggling with a difficult new
administrator…
“Thank you so much for introducing me to the Wellspring
Method. This method of dealing with stress is both enlightening and
successful. Listening at my own pace enabled me to rationally understand
my stress attacks and to find alternative outcomes. Your
program not only gave me a fine sense of self-worth, but also made me feel more confident than I have
in a long time.”
—
Chris Whittaker
Teacher
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And look at these remarkable comments...
"This is a GREAT program. You've
delivered the information and technique in a way that is simple and
easily understood, yet bears the mark of a great deal of
experience and expertise. I've been working with it for several weeks
now. The first week, very intensely, then more casually. I decided to
use it at first just when I was going through a rough patch, and found
it VERY effective. Since then I've experimented with
integrating a piece of it into a couple of phone sessions, and found it
worked for others too. THANK YOU! for
sharing it with me!"
- Dr.
Alexandra Gayek, Naturopathic Doctor
www.scienceofbeingwell.net
"My ex-husband was a negative disapproving person. I used to think
'I’m a loser', but the Wellspring Method has given me the confidence
to believe in myself. I can now feel good and enjoy life
as I become healthy and financially free. This is THANKS to your
program and knowing there are people in this great world of ours, like
yourself, who can really make a difference
in other peoples' lives."
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Betty Gilford
Financial Representative
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Now
YOU Can Use This New Technology
to Create the Changes You Want
In YOUR Life!
Because
The Wellspring Method has been successful with over 500 people, I
decided to reveal to the general public, to people like
you, (although professional counselors and life coaches
find it useful, too), the exact step-by-step process to
rapidly tap into your hidden resources and to powerfully create results
you want with people.
In
my eBook 'Secrets of
Dealing with Difficult People', I did my best
to EXPLAIN the Wellspring Method to you... to describe how to shift
yourself into an empowered emotional state... but it was a little like
trying to explain to someone how to ride a bike...
Hearing
ABOUT it is not the same as actually DOING it... You have to get INTO
the experience and actually FEEL it in order to really
make things happen!
You
need an empowering emotional experience to be
able
to handle difficult people confidently.
Therefore, I
recorded the Wellspring Method as an interactive audio
session on this website called, "The Wellspring Personal
Effectiveness System".
In this coaching session, my voice will guide you
through
the empowering process of the Wellspring Method.
It
will open your mind to new possibilities...
It
will desensitize your emotional trigger spots...
It
will connect you with the hidden power within you...
It
will make you strong and confident when dealing with people...
And
it will give you the focused mental practice you need to succeed with
difficult situations of all kinds.
It's
a unique tool that you won't find anywhere else.
But The
Best Part Is…
You Don’t Even Need
To Understand
How All The Principles And Techniques Work... Just Use The System And
Enjoy The Benefits!
If
your friend served a dessert you really liked, you might ask for the
recipe. Why? Because you know that a recipe is a
step-by-step system that will give you exactly the same results.
The
Wellspring Method is your recipe
for interpersonal success. It has been
time-tested in hundreds of real life problem situations and gives you
the ability to transform situations with difficult people into
successful outcomes.
You'll
need this "secret recipe" in order to generate the personal
power and the positive changes you want...
Your
Confident Positive Approach Will
Powerfully Influence People... And Their
Behavior Towards You Will Shift Like Magic!
You
may have been just looking for ADVICE
on what to do, but you're going to
receive something much more useful, practical and valuable!
When
you use this interactive audio method you'll gain the ability to create your own solutions for any difficult
situation or person that you encounter in your life!
You
see, locked away in compartments inside your mind (called "mental
sets") are hidden insights, bits of information, new perspectives and
useful abilities that this system helps you access to generate
new ideas and effective strategies for your own personal
situation.
Even
if you're doubtful or feel you've tried everything, you'll be
surprised, even shocked,
that you didn't think of these ideas before!
It's
like discovering that your computer has a program that can do something
that you never realized it could do before.
And
when you behave in a totally new and genuinely different way with
that difficult person in your life, they'll
unconsciously respond to that shift.
You'll
have new strategies and solutions, or maybe just new ways of talking to
them, that will bring bring about real change.
Instead
of “Your Buttons Being Pushed”,
“Stressing Out” or “Obsessing”
Over Events
in Your Head, You’ll Be Moving Forward
Creating Outcomes You Want
You’ll
quickly understand exactly why a particular difficult
person is being so “difficult” for you to deal
with.
You'll
fully appreciate how triggering your
“sensitive spots” causes your anger,
anxiety and stress to blind you from seeing the right solutions.
You’ll
really “get” why being worried or
stressed causes you to stay stuck in negative thinking
and how it makes you lose your ability to respond effectively. But
you’ll also discover exactly
what to do about it!
Instead
of negative images running inside your head, you’ll
know how to quickly reverse your stress reactions, so you can stay
focused on achieving your positive goal.
In
other words, you’ll have the ability get
your head straight first before
you say or do things you may regret later!
It's
a good feeling knowing that you can handle
difficult people and situations so you can get on with
enjoying life.
“Here
Are Some Of The Benefits You'll
Experience
With This Unique Program”
The
'Wellspring Personal Effectiveness System':
I
recorded the Wellspring Method as a step-by-step online
audio session to give you:
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A solution-generating confidence-building tool that you can use
WHENEVER a
problem comes up with a difficult person or an emotion-triggering
situation,
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The ability to create a clear and specific plan to
succeed with your particular problem situation,
and,
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A method to generate the inner strength and personal
confidence you NEED to create the results you want!
I'll
Help You Change Your Emotional Reactions So You Can Deal with Difficult
People Feeling Strong and Confident!
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If you feel frustrated,
overwhelmed or unsure of how to deal with a difficult person, I'll take
you through the exact steps to resolve your specific
situation effectively and confidently create the results
you want!
You will:
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Target your goal ...the positive
change you want in your situation ...and phrase it the right
way to activate your subconscious mind, |
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Develop
your inner road map for creating a positive change
in your personal situation, |
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Discover
the magic of desensitization... You'll actually be able to FEEL your
emotional stress release as you go through the steps! And as you use
the method multiple times, it changes you
into a more proactive, positive-minded, confident person! |
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Learn
how to uncover the perfect opportunity
within every problem situation. Experience how "reframing" can change
your perceptions and generate valuable new solutions, |
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See
how change occurs BEST from the inside out. I'll help you mentally
rehearse scenarios with difficult people to eliminate your
stress in this simple, yet powerful, way. |
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Overcome
seemingly impossible situations by breaking them down into a series of manageable
scenarios, |
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Discover
how your mind has the ability to reach deep within, break out of its
normal way of thinking, and tap into profound strength
and brilliant creativity ...in short, its greater
potential - experience the wellspring phenomenon for yourself! |
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Generate
intense motivation,
creative solutions
and power you never knew you had! |
ANGER,
ANXIETY and STRESS are EXPENSIVE emotions.
They rob your time and they waste
your money - through careless mistakes, useless
conflicts, unproductive discussions, poor results, lack of
focus, lack of sleep, ineffective communication at work and poor
relationships at home.
But
you can use this powerful problem-solving tool to give you "the right
stuff" to succeed with difficult people and problem
situations of all kinds!
Listen
to a Free Excerpt from
the Wellspring Personal Effectiveness System!
Online
Help:
Online
Help is available throughout the entire course providing you with
Guidelines to help you get the most out of your
experience. There's also an extensive Help Section with Frequently
Asked Questions to provide you with additional information and examples
to assist you.
You'll even
have the opportunity to receive personal
assistance during the process from Dr
Lauderdale by email, if needed! ($150 value)
“The
Next Time You're Dealing With a
Difficult
Person Would You Rather
Feel
Frustrated and Stressed
or
Strong and Confident?”
I suggest to
you that it's NOT A GOOD IDEA to spend even one more day
with the stress of your difficult situation hanging over you
because frustration and stress cause you to DO
things that you regret later!
Think
of the next time you're dealing with a difficult person...
Do
you think that you'll be more successful dealing with the situation
feeling stressed and upset ...or calm and
confident?
Ok,
now here's the problem with other books and
programs...
It's
very difficult to
change your emotional reactions and develop the calmness and confidence
you need by simply reading or hearing information!
Many
years of experience have taught me that you need MORE than
information
alone to cope with stressful situations effectively. You
need an
experience that changes you emotionally ...one
that gives you the strength to succeed!
What would
that be worth to you?
In
THIS program...
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You won't pay for a stress management or
interpersonal relations course that typically offers general principles
and general advice and would cost you $100 to $500... |
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And
you won't need to pay a professional coach or counselor $100
to $200 per hour! to help you deal with your
stressful situation... |
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Use this
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system as many times as you want to create
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Furthermore,
have
you considered
how
much it will cost you if your difficult
situation STAYS
unresolved?
...Procrastination, missed opportunities,
words or actions you regret, worsening conflict, impulsive
decisions,relationship breakdowns, medications, alcohol,
lack of sleep, missed
days at work, lack of productivity, stupid mistakes, legal appeals,
counseling, etc, etc...
Fear,
anger, and stress are expensive emotions! They cost you
hundreds of dollars as they steal your valuable time, energy and life
opportunities.
By
gaining the ability to be
strong and confident when
dealing with difficult people and to
create the positive results
you want in stressful situations, this system
could be worth hundreds, or even thousands of dollars to you as you enhance your personal
success
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This
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Yes,
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My Personal Effectiveness...
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"This program was MORE beneficial than I thought it would be. Thank you
so much. It was a great investment!"
-
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Social Worker
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A final comment... If you're thinking about
PUTTING OFF your decision to order, consider this... The difficult
people in your life AREN'T going to WAIT for YOU. They will continue being difficult whether
you're ready or not!
So, if
you're not ready to order right now... then, at least come up with a
constructive plan for your situation before you leave this
page... At least then you will have GAINED SOMETHING from the
time you spent here!
However,
if you decide to JOIN ME I'll be glad to help you create the positive
results you want with my 'Wellspring Personal
Effectiveness System'.
