By : Mark Lauderdale -
Not Knowing the Following Information Before Dealing with Difficult People Will Leave You Unhappy and Frustrated with NO ONE Listening to What YOU Want!
Discover the Secrets of Dealing with People
This tested step-by-step problem-solving method will help you calmly and confidently create the positive change you want when dealing with difficult people.
You’ll learn ..
- How to Understand Difficult People and Create Positive Change
- How to Handle Conflict, Complaints, Verbal Abuse and Noncollaboration
- How to Deal with Bullying, Harassment, Gossip, Office Politics and Controlling People
- How to Stay Calm, Cool and Collected When Dealing with Difficult People
Secrets of Dealing with Difficult People is available in paperback or ebook format (as a downloadable pdf file).
Difficult people throw us off our game… they trigger our sensitive spots, cause us to feel powerless and generally throw a wrench into the works of forward progress.
Your own frustration and stress can cause you to be ineffective or even make things worse – getting angry, complaining, stewing or stressing about the situation, losing sleep, avoiding the person or just “putting up with it”.
The sad truth is that many people give up trying to create a positive change and settle for unhappiness or they just try to escape.
This translates into dissatisfaction with your job or relationship, poor communication and performance, quitting your job or breaking up a relationship.
As a psychiatrist and therapist I often talk to people who are feeling frustrated and stressed by a difficult person in their life – a difficult relationship, difficult people at work, difficult employees, difficult neighbours and difficult family members.
After years of helping people successfully cope with these difficult people problems I realized that they all had something in common… The difficult person was “pushing their buttons”.
When their anger, frustration or anxiety was triggered there was very little hope of them dealing with their situation effectively.
So, I developed and tested a method that I have used with my patients to help them deal with difficult people more effectively. After years of positive results (you can see some of the results below) I decided to write this book detailing all of the steps that a person needs to take in order to deal with difficult people successfully.
Read These Stories Of People Who Have
Already Improved Their Relationships With
Difficult People Using My Methods
“She handled a difficult employee/coworker without feeling stressed at all.”
Before… Jill was the manager of a hair salon and spa who was worrying for weeks about how to confront an employee regarding some inappropriate behavior at work. She didn’t quite know how to bring up the issue and was concerned that the person might get upset or even quit.
After using my strategies… Jill remarked, “Using this method really helped me work through the problem without any stress. I feel strong and confident!” and she went on to easily obtain her employee’s agreement to make a change she wanted – during casual conversation at lunch! A big confrontation never even took place.
— Jill Neil
Helpful Tip… Jill used my mental rehearsal technique to transform her anxiety and fear into calmness and confidence. This emotional state allowed her to address her employee’s behavior easily and comfortably.
“She gained the cooperation of her family while feeling peaceful and calm inside.”
Before… “I’m a mother with a teenaged son and a husband and I had some problems with their lack of cooperation around the house. This brought up a lot of anger because of the apparent disrespect from them. I felt frustrated and I would lash out at my family with a lot of verbal anger.”
After using my strategies… “Your methods worked wonderfully in that I could deal with my son in different ways, see the situation in different ways, and I could also feel the peace and calm inside of me instead of the anger and frustration that I had previously experienced.”
— Shirley Hanson
Helpful Tip… Without relying on anger to get her point across, Shirley was able to calmly, yet assertively, make lack of cooperation become less desirable than regularly helping out around the house.
“He was able to feel strong and confident during a pre-trial conference …and it made a difference of $100,000!”
Before… “My oldest daughter suffered a head injury in a motor vehicle accident, and I had been fighting with the insurance company for about six years. Each time I had to deal with her issues in relation to counseling, education, learning difficulties or the legal settlement, I found it difficult to move ahead in a proactive way.”
After using my strategies… “During the ‘pre-trial conference’, I was able to clearly state the needs of this case, and put the arrogant insurance company representative in his place, where it was clear he was not going to bully or abuse us during the process. Ultimately, this made a difference in the amount of money they offered, actually about a $100,000 difference. This a great tool Dr. Mark!”
— Tom Rankin
Helpful Tip… By using my strategies to become crystal clear about his desired outcome and then visualizing his plan, Tom was able to stay focused on achieving his goal and not be thrown off by the controlling tactics of the insurance rep.
Now, how long do you think it took these people to learn how to create these dramatic changes?
ABOUT ONE HOUR!
I’m not joking.
In fact, the first one is even recorded on video.
Here are some more examples
of rapid positive change…
“This method helped me to put the demands of work into perspective. People have known that I’ve been stressed about the pressures and expectations of my job for awhile now, but the program helped me learn to take things much less personally. It worked a lot better than I thought it would in the beginning and I was really impressed that my issue could be resolved so quickly! It’s like issues that are stressing you just become non-issues, so you can get on with enjoying life.”
— Ron Betuba
Customer Care Representative
Helpful Tip… Ron felt “stressed” at work and not sure what to do about it. By simply targeting the specific behaviors in his coworkers and supervisor that were triggering him, he was able to understand the source of his stress and then clear up the issues one by one.
“I was experiencing a problem dealing with conflict both at home and at work. After using the Wellspring Method I am very pleased with the results. I found it to be tremendously helpful and encouraging, strongly recommending it for anyone.”
— Charles Dunwood
Teaching Assistant for Special Needs Students
Helpful Tip… Charles discovered that learning not to be afraid of conflict or anger caused other people to simply stop using this tactic on him to get their way.
“My ex-husband was a negative disapproving person. I used to think ‘I’m a loser’, but the Wellspring Method has given me the confidence to believe in myself. I can now feel good and enjoy life as I become healthy and financially free. This is THANKS to your program and knowing there are people in this great world of ours, like yourself, who can really make a difference in other peoples’ lives.”
— Betty Gilford
Helpful Tip… Betty’s bullying ex-husband was good at making her feel small and unimportant. She learned how to tap into her wellspring of strength and confidence to stand up for the consideration and respect she deserved.
“Here Are Some Of The Secrets You’ll
Learn Inside My Informative eBook”
Here’s a sample of the valuable things you’ll learn:
I’ll Show You How to Understand Difficult People and Create Positive Change
If you feel frustrated, overwhelmed and unsure of what to do next, I’ll show you the exact steps to take to begin dealing with the problem effectively. I’ll teach you:
- The 3 things that CAUSE a difficult person to be difficult (understanding these difficult behavior “sources” will help you know the right way to respond) – p.10
- The first thing you should do whenever difficult people “push your buttons” and trigger your sensitive spots – p.29
- 8 ways to gain cooperation from ANY difficult person – p.134
Learn How to Handle Conflict, Complaints, Verbal Abuse and Noncollaboration
If you’re struggling with the stress and anxiety of dealing with verbal abuse and conflicts, I’ll show you how to remain centered and gain the cooperation you need. You’ll learn…
- How to avoid the trap of “taking things personally” – p.110
- The right way to respond to someone who is being disrespectful towards you that ensures that they “change their tune” – p.123
- What to do with angry complaining people that softens them like butter on a warm plate – p.134
Discover How to Deal with Bullying, Harassment, Gossip, Office Politics and Controlling People
If bullying, harassment or controlling behavior is getting you down, causing you to fret and fume, you’ll want to know that I cover the top ways to neutralize negative behavior and effectively turn the tables in these difficult situations. You’ll discover:
- How to address bullying or intimidation in the workplace confidently and clearly, but without a big confrontation – p.175
- A strategy for dealing with controlling behavior that puts YOU in the driver’s seat – p.189
- How to deal with “drama queens” and emotionally sensitive people without hurting their feelings, and yet produce positive change – p.114
- And much more in 201 information-packed pages…
You’ll Also Receive the Following
FREE Bonus Reports with Your Purchase!
Once you start to understand how to use these techniques better, it’s important to be able to set and achieve your goals effectively.
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5 Special Reports:
1. The Critical First Step In Creating Change
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4. How To Tap Into The Hidden Power Within You
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Total Value: $49.75, Yours FREE!.
Learn From a Professional Who Helps Others Deal With Difficult People Every Day
I’ve learned that most people do exactly the WRONG things in most situations with “difficult” people. In my book, I’ll teach you the RIGHT things to do.
If you don’t have a clue about how to handle a difficult person, this book will help you. If you already have fairly well-developed interpersonal skills, this book will make you better.
You might be dealing with a difficult person at work or at home or somewhere in the community. That’s fine. Whatever your situation, this book will help you.
This book is not just a collection of tips and advice. It’s a step-by-step method, a tried and tested system that you can use to solve all sorts of relationship dilemmas.
Because I can give you this information all at once, you won’t need to pay a professional coach or counselor $100 to $200 per hour to help you succeed with your situation.
And you won’t need to register for a seminar, webinar or course that costs anywhere from $100 to $1000. This could prove to be one of the most VALUABLE investments you make in enhancing your interpersonal skills.
This manual is available in either soft cover book or ebook format… which means that you can download it and start learning these secrets immediately — right from the privacy and comfort of your computer.
Gain the confidence you need to create the positive results you want with ‘Secrets of Dealing With Difficult People’.
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Secrets of Dealing with Difficult People
Unlike other books, this 201-page book shows you a tested step-by-step problem-solving method to help you calmly and confidently create the positive change you want when dealing with difficult people.
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“WOW!! It’s like a light came on for me. I can now see where I contributed to a problem and what I could have and should have done differently to ensure a better outcome.
I will definitely use your method in all my future endeavors. I will practice the techniques and am sure I can turn situations around in the future for the benefit of everyone. This is a great value!! Thank You So Much.”
— Linda Edwards, Purchasing Agent
Mark Lauderdale MD FRCPC
Psychiatrist and Personal Effectiveness Consultant
P.S. I caution you that it’s NOT A GOOD IDEA to waste even one more day with the stress of your difficult situation hanging over you because anger, anxiety and stress are EXPENSIVE emotions.
Frustrations and stress cause you to SAY and DO things that you will regret later!
The stress emotions rob your time and waste your money – through lost productivity, wasted time and energy searching for advice on the internet, more mistakes, conflicts, lack of sleep, lack of focus, ineffectiveness at work and worsening relationships at home.
Instead, never avoid that difficult person again. Go into the office tomorrow or come home with your head held high knowing that you can deal effectively with the problem. Stop letting someone else control your life.